National Siblings Day Slings And Siblings


Try and imagine that you’re a toddler/young child. You’ve had your parent(s) / caregivers all to yourself for your whole life. You’ve watched your mother’s body change, only really noticing it near the end of her pregnancy, and not really getting the whole ‘new-baby-that’s-here-forever’ thing.


Switch roles back to mother/parent/caregiver. You and your little one have gone through so much together. You’ve grown together, loved together and cried together. You’ve cared for them, loved them, been their entire world. Now, you are all those things times two. Adjusting as a family and adapting to the changes can be challenging and exhilarating.


The new baby arrives. There’s still just one of you - just one of you to do all the things you did before, but now for two children, rather than just one.


Unfortunately, most of us don’t live in a way where we have extended family close by to help care for us in those early days. We have to do so much by ourselves. And, rightly or wrongly, we feel like we have to do it all ourselves too.


As such, there is so much space for negative feelings - guilt, inadequacy, failure. How on earth do you give your older child what they need whilst caring for your new baby?! We all struggle, in some way with these feelings.


Thankfully, newborns and older siblings usually have different needs. Your newborn has very few needs, but of course they’re huge. They need food, they need to be comfortable, and the need to feel secure and close. Toddler’s and children’s needs, well they can change every second in a keeping-you-on-your-toes whirlwind of emotion and independence smooshed right up against vulnerability and regression.


Here’s where a sling becomes more than just a tool, more than just something you use. It helps you through the day. It helps you manage emotions, manage time, make a sandwich, go to the toilet.


Why? Because you’re meeting one of your newborn’s primary needs by keeping them comfortable, close, secure and connected. So you have your hands free to deal with the ever complex needs of an older child. It can be the difference between coping and not-coping. It can be the difference between getting through the day and enjoying the day (at least parts of it!). This has positive effects on your children and you (all 3 aspects - your mental health, emotional and physical well-being). It makes sense.


Your sling is a vital tool when baby has siblings. You can still do many of the things you always did - read a story, go for a walk, ride on the swings, play on the floor, bake! - your hands are free. Having a newborn is such a transitional time for any family, and a sling can help that transition run much more smoothly.


National Siblings Day Slings And Siblings


Go anywhere together - there’s so much more you can do using a sling. This has a wonderful positive impact on your family and on you. The beach, forest, supermarket, town, airport, mountain or the stairs to your home or dog on a walk. You can do what you want as a family, together. It makes sense.


Much love and happy carrying!

Beth Beaney